The Four and a Half Types of Men

Boyfriend – The Boyfriend, is the main guy in her life, he is loved, respected and hated at the same time by the girl. He gets her time and love and often gets gifts and money from her. She spends 90% of her time with him with the remaining 10% divided among the other men in her life. She usually has thoughts of marriage with her boyfriend and views intimacy as a way to maintain the relationship. The boyfriend usually knows the parents and her girlfriends and has all access to her through work phones, cell phones, home phones, girlfriends phones and even her parents phones. The boyfriend is very jeolous and places restrictions on her free time. She may or may not know about baby girl or the sidepiece and if she does, she won’t reveal it until she needs a new car or a big purchase or if she gets caught with the homeboy or out with the nice guy.

 

The “Homeboy” – Is the guy that she goes to when the boyfriend is out of town or she is fighting with him. He is the person she wants to go to the club with or have a threesome with. The Homeboy knows every aspect of her life. As in the case with the boyfriend, she does not want to see him with another woman. The homeboy doesn’t want to be the boyfriend but doesn’t want her to be with her boyfriend and will often put things into her head to cause drama. If she and the homeboy are seen in public by either the boyfriend of his friends, she will explain to him that he is just a homeboy or even her cousin. The Homeboy is usually better sexually than the boyfriend and is the one she will go to for “wilder sex” than what the boyfriend can provide.

  

Sugar Daddy – Is the one she goes to for gifts and money. He is usually an older guy in his late 30’s to mid 50’s that has a wife and numerous sidepieces. Their relationship is based 100% on money and gifts in exchange for sexual favors. The sugar daddy is the one she goes to when her bills need to be paid and the boyfriend is broke and the Homeboys child support is due. The sugar daddy is usually seen once every other week at a motel or in his car. The sugar daddy is very demanding when it comes to the way he wants her to look and perform sexually. He believes that he can control her with money. The Sugar Daddy may know about the boyfriend but never knows about the homeboy or other men in her life. Usually the rendevous are brief due to his limited sexual endurance. The Sugar Daddy is only around for the duration of his philanthropy.

 

 Nice Guy – Like the Sugar Daddy, the nice guy gives the girl gifts and money but never receives sexual favors in return. The nice guy is usually closer to her age. He is usually told by the girl that he is “so cute” …“so nice” and anything else to stroke his ego. The nice guy really wants to be the boyfriend but will disguise his motives by saying he would like to be just friends in attempt to gain “Homeboy” status. The nice guy usually has a descent place a steady job and better than average credit which comes in handy for co-signing. The girl keeps him around if she doesn’t have an “active” Sugar Daddy. He never gets any real time with her unless she needs a ride and the boyfriend has her car, the homeboy can’t be reached because he is with another girl and she doesn’t want to exchange sex for a ride with the sugar daddy. The only time that he is utilized fully is when she is feeling like she needs to be wined and dined. In an effort to avoid intimacy or sex at the end of the date, she usually comes up with an excuse like her mother is sick or that she is on her period and beginning to cramp.

 

Stalker – The Stalker is the nice guy gone wrong. He is usually driven over the edge if the rare times that he is seen is decreased by any amount. The symptoms of the stalker usually appear when he begins to show up at her job unexpectedly and leaves flowers and notes on her car at unexpected places like the mall or salon. He will usually call more often and begin to *67 his number to see if she answers. The stalkers feelings are usually magnified at this point where he will leave messages of how much he loves her, needs her and can’t live without her. Even the pleas by the girl to leave her alone doesn’t work and she will threaten him with the homeboy that he never knew existed. She never tells the boyfriend about the stalker because he will get angry with her and the Sugar Daddy doesn’t care. The stalker will only go away if there is absolutely no contact between the parties and the Homeboy intervenes with threats of bodily harm.

4 Types Of Women

4 Different Types of Women

A man has 4 different types of women: 1. Wifey 2. Baby Girl 3. Side Piece 4. Jump Off

 

Wifey is the sexiest, most successful and most respected of all the women. She is loved, needed and wanted by her man…she is VIRTUALLY IRREPLACEABLE. She is the girl that the man loves and will always love, he never wants to see her with another man….BUT he will cheat on her with Baby Girl until he is mature enough to realize that if he gets caught or messes up in any way and loses Wifey, he would be screwed, and NEVER be happy again. Wifey gets along with mom, is independent, never nags, loves to dress sexy for her man, can cook and loves to keep a clean house. Wifey gets called 5 or 6 times a day. The drawback of Wifey, she loves public displays of affection…which might intefere with the acquisition of a Side Piece.

4) Jump Off…every mans dream and worst nightmare. She is trying to move up in life, wants to be a Side Piece or Wifey but doesnt know how to go about it. They are the girls that he holla’s at when he’s with his boys…she is usually stored in the cell phone by a nick name because he barely remembers her real name and where he met her…he only recalls how fat her ass was. The Jump Off gets called in emergencies only, when Wifey is moody, baby girl is on vacation and side piece is with her baby’s father. The Jump Off is extremely dangerous in public for a number of reasons, she is usually 5 other guys jump off as well, so she might cause drama with you and one of those dudes if you slip up, she also has no problem confronting you in the mall when you are with Wifey (something that baby girl would NEVER do) and the most dangerous thing about Jump Off…She ALWAYS seems to find out where you live and or work.

The Anatomy of the Hater

 

In order to truly understand haters, we must understand what makes a hater hate. As explained to me by “Powe” the Wise, there are 3 types of haters: The Occasional Hater, The Hasty Hater, and the dangerous, Deliberate Hater.

 

Occasional Hater: The Occasional Hater isn’t a hater by the true sense of the word…an individual that internalizes the good fortune, material possessions and rewarding relationships that you have obtained and turns it into envy and anger. The occasional hater has no intentional desire to harm you or hinder your goals. Occasional haters are usually somebody that you know like a friend or family member. They hate because of a new job, new cloths, new car…etc. Their hate fades quickly however as they turn there attention on achieving what you have achieved through hard work or networking. The dark side of the Occasional Hater is that if you should lose said job, car. etc…they will be the first to talk behind your back.

 

Hasty Hater: The Hasty Hater, unlike the Occasional Hater does not know the intimate accomplishments that you have achieved like a family member or friend would. The occasional hater either does not know you at all or has only seen you on limited occasion. This hater arises instantaneously and more often focuses on your material gains. An example of such hate can be seen during our everyday commutes on public roads. I had such an occasion to witness the hasty hater in action. I was driving a brand new Lexus GS on 20 inch staggered fit black rims, with chrome lips. In my rearview mirror, I watched a vehicle maneuver its way through traffic until it came next to my vehicle. I identified the vehicle as an “older” second generation GS with a raggedy body kit. The driver‘s companion, a young lady in her high teens or early 20’s was outwardly enthusiastic about my vehicle however, the driver did not share her enthusiasm. He looked over at me with a scowl on his face and, upon the light turning green, accelerated off and made and immediate left turn. The occasional hater’s hate quickly fades as he/ she is no longer within site of you.

 

Deliberate Hater: This is the most dangerous type of hater as they have intimate knowledge of you such as a family member or “close” friend. What makes them so dangerous is that they actively try to sabotage your good fortune or relationships. The deliberate hater operates on the premise that you confide with him or her. Most deliberate hater lie in wait for the opportune time to expose you or watch you fail…they may have even helped with the process by starting rumors, (he said, she said) or even concocting lies.  Once this hater has been exposed, he or she must be avoided at all costs because they will only regroup to strike again at later date.

 

Now that we have identified the type of haters, we must understand that you…the recipient of the hate is not the victim, the hater is actually the victim. He or she internalizes the anger, jealousy and envy. These feelings eventually eat away at them until their whole thought process and energy is directed to you the “hatee”. Understanding the emotional damage that a hater self inflicts on his/ herself, we must therefore embrace the hater and understand their weaknesses in order to lead them onto the road to recovery.