The Four and a Half Types of Men

Boyfriend – The Boyfriend, is the main guy in her life, he is loved, respected and hated at the same time by the girl. He gets her time and love and often gets gifts and money from her. She spends 90% of her time with him with the remaining 10% divided among the other men in her life. She usually has thoughts of marriage with her boyfriend and views intimacy as a way to maintain the relationship. The boyfriend usually knows the parents and her girlfriends and has all access to her through work phones, cell phones, home phones, girlfriends phones and even her parents phones. The boyfriend is very jeolous and places restrictions on her free time. She may or may not know about baby girl or the sidepiece and if she does, she won’t reveal it until she needs a new car or a big purchase or if she gets caught with the homeboy or out with the nice guy.

 

The “Homeboy” – Is the guy that she goes to when the boyfriend is out of town or she is fighting with him. He is the person she wants to go to the club with or have a threesome with. The Homeboy knows every aspect of her life. As in the case with the boyfriend, she does not want to see him with another woman. The homeboy doesn’t want to be the boyfriend but doesn’t want her to be with her boyfriend and will often put things into her head to cause drama. If she and the homeboy are seen in public by either the boyfriend of his friends, she will explain to him that he is just a homeboy or even her cousin. The Homeboy is usually better sexually than the boyfriend and is the one she will go to for “wilder sex” than what the boyfriend can provide.

  

Sugar Daddy – Is the one she goes to for gifts and money. He is usually an older guy in his late 30’s to mid 50’s that has a wife and numerous sidepieces. Their relationship is based 100% on money and gifts in exchange for sexual favors. The sugar daddy is the one she goes to when her bills need to be paid and the boyfriend is broke and the Homeboys child support is due. The sugar daddy is usually seen once every other week at a motel or in his car. The sugar daddy is very demanding when it comes to the way he wants her to look and perform sexually. He believes that he can control her with money. The Sugar Daddy may know about the boyfriend but never knows about the homeboy or other men in her life. Usually the rendevous are brief due to his limited sexual endurance. The Sugar Daddy is only around for the duration of his philanthropy.

 

 Nice Guy – Like the Sugar Daddy, the nice guy gives the girl gifts and money but never receives sexual favors in return. The nice guy is usually closer to her age. He is usually told by the girl that he is “so cute” …“so nice” and anything else to stroke his ego. The nice guy really wants to be the boyfriend but will disguise his motives by saying he would like to be just friends in attempt to gain “Homeboy” status. The nice guy usually has a descent place a steady job and better than average credit which comes in handy for co-signing. The girl keeps him around if she doesn’t have an “active” Sugar Daddy. He never gets any real time with her unless she needs a ride and the boyfriend has her car, the homeboy can’t be reached because he is with another girl and she doesn’t want to exchange sex for a ride with the sugar daddy. The only time that he is utilized fully is when she is feeling like she needs to be wined and dined. In an effort to avoid intimacy or sex at the end of the date, she usually comes up with an excuse like her mother is sick or that she is on her period and beginning to cramp.

 

Stalker – The Stalker is the nice guy gone wrong. He is usually driven over the edge if the rare times that he is seen is decreased by any amount. The symptoms of the stalker usually appear when he begins to show up at her job unexpectedly and leaves flowers and notes on her car at unexpected places like the mall or salon. He will usually call more often and begin to *67 his number to see if she answers. The stalkers feelings are usually magnified at this point where he will leave messages of how much he loves her, needs her and can’t live without her. Even the pleas by the girl to leave her alone doesn’t work and she will threaten him with the homeboy that he never knew existed. She never tells the boyfriend about the stalker because he will get angry with her and the Sugar Daddy doesn’t care. The stalker will only go away if there is absolutely no contact between the parties and the Homeboy intervenes with threats of bodily harm.